So Here's The Thing
So here's the thing. Everyone get's nervous in social situations. And most people know that, but what they don't really think about what that means. They think, 'yeah I'm always nervous in social situations, and so are my friends'. But not a lot of people really grasp. EVERYONE is nervous, including THE PEOPLE THAT YOU'RE TALKING TO. You know when you can't think of what to say. And you're afraid that they'll judge you for what you say. Or what you're wearing. They're not. They're thinking exactly what you're thinking. No matter who you are. Or who they are. Lets say you're kind of a nerd. And you're talking to this huge jock. You're most likely thinking "Oh what if he thinks I'm weird or a geek or blah blah". WELL. SHOCKER. He doesn't think he's perfect. He's sitting there "What if i say something stupid, what if he talks about Zelda and I don't know which game is which". We are ALL teenagers and we are ALL super self conscious. NO ONE is sure of themselves.
Dealing with nerves:
Now some people might say "Just be sure of yourself!" HA no. Here's the cheater way. Realize that say you're with a group of people. And none of them know eachother. They are ALL JUDGING THEMSELVES. The only thing that they are judging from you, is your body language,and how confident you seem. I cannot stress this enough. YOU CAN BE THE SCRAWNIEST, WEIRDEST PERSON IN THE WORLD. And as long as you stand tall and take up space, and talk loud. THEY THINK YOU'RE THE COOLEST KID IN THE WORLD. And you know what they are? Jealous. Jealous that you're confident in yourself. They're not even listening to you. They're busy judging themselves. And the people that already seem like they own the place, already realize this. As long as you realize that no one really cares about you, they only care about themselves, and your body language, and talking loud and proud.
The Correct Body Language:
To put it simply. You know how people say you scare off a bear by looking big? Yeah. Do that. To be a little more complex. Don't slouch. Keep your back straight. Head high. Look people in the eyes ( But thats hard! Remember, they're not judging you. They don't even think about how you're flawed. They're only thinking of themselves..like you.) Try to spread your legs when you sit (if you're a guy) It's a way of taking up space, which makes you seem confident and powerful. Don't spread it till you look like you awkwardly flopped on the chair. Just a little spread. It also helps you to not look rigid, which you may seem since you're standing so properly postured. You're arms should be at your sides or spread out or at your sides. No in your lap or anywhere in front of your torso. If i were to look at you from behind, I should be able to see your arms. Wham! People will see this and no matter what you look like, are saying, or anything, will think you're cool.
Talking Like You're A Boss:
If You've ever spoken to me, I'm loud, almost obnoxiously (LOL almost...) And I use my arms to speak? And all that good stuff. Do THAT and there are two options. People Will either think you're a total ass. Or be jealous of your confidence. HOWEVER. Don't talk like that all the time, because after about 15 minutes of it (your first impression) it starts to get annoying and on EVERYONES nerves. Like I do!
HOPE I HELPED
Just remember, What you think when you meet new people, is exactly what other people think about themselves, including the people you're meeting. They aren't judging you. They're judging themselves too. So why be nervous?